Searching for the Right One

If you are an adult person, I can guess that there has already been at least one moment in your life when you asked yourself who is the right person for you.
I know the feeling when it seems that your heart skipped a beat when you saw someone and thought if your search was finally over... And I also know the feeling when you find out at the end that he or she is not. The latter can be so depressing but it doesn't make us think that it is already the end of the search for the ever-elusive right person.
But just how do we know, how can we be sure, if a person is the right one or just one of the 6 billion wrong people for us? What if we already came across Mr. or Ms. Right once before and we didn't realize it was him/her? What if we already waited at the bus stop with them and never even had a talk until the bus arrived and our paths were forever separated? What if the person we lay our eyes on when we have the chance, the person who keeps us up late at night because we can't help but think about them, the one who makes our heart beat fast just merely by their presence, is not the right one but the wrong one?
Will there really be an end to this search?
I want to find the right person for me, the one who is going to make me happy now that it seems impossible. One who is going to bring back my self-confidence, will be there with me through thick and thin as I try my best to thrive and fix the brokenness brought about by my past. That person who is going to be by my side and reassures me that everything will be ok as the inevitable strikes of life happen... He is good-looking yet he chose to be with me than with other people who are better-looking than I. He is intelligent, strong and he loves me. He is not scared of the hundreds of things that always leave me stuck and dumbfounded. Someone who is going to be like a big brother.
Each of us has his own description of the right one, and it always depends on what we need emotionally. I remember reading somewhere that we always get attracted with the person who shows things that we don't have but wish that we do. And knowing that, we can easily observe that those people who have a lot of hang-up's, those who are unhappy, those who are products of an ugly past, are prone to being dependent or attached to the person they think they love, the person they think is the right one. While those who are happy, those who love themselves unconditionally and going well with their life and has a good background, are not so preoccupied by this search. They can go about their everyday life happy whether they are alone or with someone.
It's so complicated, we may find the right person, or the person we are looking for, the one we need, but if he doesn't think the same of us and he needs someone else, that is a disaster. For sure it will not only break but crumble our heart, right?
I asked my Higher Self through automatic writing what should I do to overcome worldly attachments. In reply, it said that we can never overcome attachments, the question is when to let go and move on when it is already done and no longer serves purpose in our life. It illustrated the caterpillar which always sticks itself to the ground so that it can move and if you pick it up, it will be restless and want to go back to earth. But once it becomes a butterfly, it would not mind leaving the ground because it can fly. Sometimes it will move through the air, sometimes it will land on earth, then fly again. It's not scared to leave the earth unlike the caterpillar it once was.
My Higher Self went on to tell that for me to be able to let go of attachments, I should discover who I really am and be it, I should become my full potential.
It makes sense, because the reason why we frantically and endlessly search for Mr. or Ms. Right is because we want to feel complete, we want them to do for us what we can't do for ourselves. We want a particular someone in our life because by ourselves, we feel weak and helpless--- it's better if we have a companion who is going to fill our inner emptiness. But will there be really anyone who can do that... aside from ourselves? Why do we always look for the right person in other people instead of in ourselves?
Once we're happy, once we started to love and trust ourselves unconditionally and broke down our barriers of fears in life, then finally the search is over.
What is having a relationship with a good person for then?
On this I want to quote a French novelist who is one of my favorite, Antoine de Sainte-Exupery:  Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.